Developmental Trauma
Author and speaker Pia Mellody wrote, "None of us escape childhood unscathed." Even when we have well-intentioned parents who are loving and caring, we in our childlike minds, often internalize negative messages. Common messages include:
- I'm not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or some other negative message about ourselves.
- Other messages include believing our caregivers are unsafe, hurtful, unavailable, or some other negative message that results in us as children feeling very alone.
- Dr. Mellody defines abuse as "anything less than nurturing."
Unfortunately, we carry these negative internal messages into adulthood and they can powerfully impact our mental, emotional, spiritual health, relational, and even physical health as adults. And unfortunately, we often pass this woundedness on to our children, thus perpetuating generational trauma.
Relationship Trauma
The average couple waits about 7 years to address issues in their relationship. These chronic, unresolved issues can lead to a lack of connection, trust, and ultimately to separation or divorce.
How To Get Help
There is help! Two options are available. Traditional weekly appointments are favored by some as a way to find frequent and ongoing help. A JUMPSTART TO HEALING® may be right for you and your partner if:
- You need a relationship tune-up
- Are in a relationship crisis
- Have discovered infidelity
- Are attempting to reconcile
- Are considering if marriage is right for you
- Geographic distance prevents you from having weekly sessions. We have, and continue, to serve people throughout the Midwest and beyond.
Therapists at Counseling Alliance® have advanced training in recognizing and treating developmental and relational trauma. Stop the cycle. Bring healing to yourself as well as others in your family.
