Betrayal Trauma Counseling, Treatments & Services
Sexual addiction is the progressive intimacy disorder marked by compulsive sexual thoughts and actions is better identified as sexual addiction.
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What is Sexual Addiction?
Is Sex Really an Addiction?
Can Sexual Addiction be Treated?
When Do I Need Sexual Addiction Therapy?
What is the Impact of
Addiction on Partners?
What are the Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma?
What Types of Support for Partners do You Provide?
What Happens in Therapy?
What is Betrayal Trauma?
A progressive intimacy disorder marked by compulsive sexual thoughts and actions is better identified as sexual addiction. As the disease progresses, the detrimental effects on the person with the addiction and their family members increase. Just as with substance addiction, thoughts and behaviors escalate and over time, to obtain the same outcomes, the addict typically needs to increase the addictive behaviors.
Activity may not advance beyond compulsive masturbation or the heavy usage of pornography. Likewise, it may involve phone or computer sex services for individual sex addicts. Addiction may include illicit acts with others, such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, pornographic phone calls, use of escorts, or affairs.
A very small percentage of sex addicts engage in criminal activity. Moreover, sex addicts are rarely sex offenders. Concern for the safety of children is common and a conversation with one of our therapists may be very helpful in terms of ensuring the safety of children and finding an appropriate course of treatment for the addiction.
WHAT is a Betrayal Trauma ?
Hypersexual disorder is a proposed diagnosis for people who engage in sex or think about sex through fantasies and urges more than normal.
Is Betrayal Trauma Healing Possible?
The American Society for Addiction Medicine defines addiction in part by:
Addiction is a treatable, chronic medical disease involving complex interactions among brain circuits, genetics, the environment, and an individual’s life experiences. People with addiction use substances or engage in behaviors that become compulsive and often continue despite harmful consequences.
Prevention efforts and treatment approaches for addiction are generally as successful as those for other chronic diseases. (ASAM Definition of Addiction).
Addictions are divided into two main categories, substances (alcohol, drugs) and processes (gambling, sex, food, etc.). Both substance and process addiction have the ability to change the circuitry of the brain, especially in areas related to the reward system.
Currently there are multiple descriptions for sex as an addiction. Here are some of them with links to more information:
In general, we distinguish between sex, porn, and love addiction. There are similarities and differences in each and they may overlap.
- Sex addiction is what it sounds like; a person "acts out" by being sexual with another person.
- Porn addicts primarily view pornography and generally masturbate.
- Love addiction is need for connection, affirmation, validation, or some other emotional component that is acquired through relationship(s). One main difference between love addiction and a healthy committed relationship is the tendency for the love addict to move from one relationship to another frequently in their effort to have their needs met.
Therapists at Counseling Alliance™ have advanced training through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Our therapists are Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) or Candidates for certification (CSATc).
There is hope for a healthier you
Sexual Addictions are treatable. We can help guide you by providing the tools you need to achieve recovery.
When Do I Need Support for Betrayal Trauma?
The short answer to that question is, "When you continue in a behavior despite negative consequences."
A simple six item assessment (PATHOS) is actually a reliable tool to start the journey on recovery. How many of these are true for you?
P = Preoccupation: Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
A = Ashamed: Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others?
T = Treatment: Have you ever sought therapy for sexual behavior you did not like?
H = Hurt others: Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behaviors?
O = Out of control: Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
S = Sad: When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?
If you answered "Yes" to three or more of the above items further assessment is needed.
Remember, any of the therapists at Counseling Alliance™ have the training and the ability to conduct such an assessment. Start your healing journey today.
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What is the Impact of Addiction on Partners?
Few things rock a partner's world more powerfully than the discovery of sexual betrayal. At the core of being human is a need to understand our world. We interpret all of life in order that we may predict, understand, and protect our place in the world. This is especially true of our relationships. We have expectations about how our life and relationships should unfold. These expectations are based on promises. The discovery or disclosure that our partner has betrayed us sexually shatters our understanding of our world. We now call everything in to question.
Who is this person? What does this mean for the future? What about all the promises of the past? Who is this person? Who am I now that I realize that all I believed to be true is a lie? Am I safe? Are our children safe?
Betrayal trauma is the equivalent of an emotional tsunami. This is why it's so incredibly important for a partner to seek support. Sure, its the other person's problem. They acted out, not you. But you carry the pain and confusion of your partner's betrayal. And you need support for yourself and for those whom you love.
Therapists at Counseling Alliance™ are trained and experienced in supporting those who have experienced betrayal trauma. They can help begin the process of putting your own life, and your place in this world, back together. Reach out today to begin the healing journey.
Never give up hope!
While you did not invite betrayal trauma into your life
you can make the decision to turn toward healing. Healing rarely, if ever comes quickly, but it can come.
What Are the Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma?
Another way to think of betrayal trauma the loss involved. All the typical symptoms of grief are common. These include: shock, denial and disbelief, anger, hopelessness, and depression.
Partners also experience confusion mentally, spiritually, and relationally. Sleeplessness, anxiety, hypervigilance, and any of a number of physical and emotional complaints are also common.
We support and normalize the symptoms associated betrayal trauma. You are not going crazy. These are normal reactions to an abnormal situation.
And most importantly, help is available.
What Types of Support for Partners Do You Provide?
Counseling Alliance™ offers a variety of supportive therapies for partners. Therapy options include:
- Individual,
- Group,
- Peer Support,
- Telehealth, and
- JUMPSTART TO HEALING®.
Therapy approaches include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Psychodrama, among others.
What Happens in Therapy?
People often wonder what happens in therapy. This can especially be true for partners who have experienced betrayal trauma. Here are some basics of what to expect. Our therapists will work with you to:
- Help you process what has happened,
- Get the story straight about the nature of the betrayal,
- Find multiple sources of support so that you don't have to "go it alone."
- Work with you to help you determine the next best course of action,
- Help you develop a healing mindset for yourself first. Initially this means:
- Establishing personal safety. For example, through setting healthy boundaries
- Process your trauma. It is impossible for you to heal from your trauma without safety. Unfortunately too many partners become stuck in their trauma and as a result do not feel safe. Thus healing for betrayal never comes.
- When ready, consider healing for the relationship.
- Chart a course for the future.
- Get your life back!